There are a few reasons why relationships end, and losing its
excitement is one of them.
LOADEDVIBE takes a look at why relationships become boring, as well as what can be done to keep the spark going.
When you first started dating your partner, we’re sure that the thrill you experienced was like being on a roller coaster. You were giddy with excitement, and there were always new things to do! Even when you moved in together, the excitement was still there.
Eventually, though, things can become stale. When two people spend so much time together, it’s natural that things become stagnant. Real life gets in the
way. We no longer have the same
energy and enthusiasm as we did at the start of the relationship. We don’t try as hard to impress our partner, and we fall into the habit of routine. All of a sudden, you’re both tired after long days at work.
You spend your spare time cooking and cleaning, and he spends his spare time on his computer. Communication breaks down, and the only time you do something a bit different is at the weekend. You’re bored, he’s bored and it seems as though the relationship has ran its course. It’s scary and alarming, because we never think our relationship is going to become uninteresting. It was so exciting during the early days, that it was impossible to imagine that it would become stale. Life seemed to be one big
adventure! But it happens. Real life gets in the way. We run out of things to do and say. We get tired and lose motivation. We get too comfortable, and believe we don’t have to try so hard anymore. It’s okay if we don’t cook for him today. We can just pig out on the
sofa – he won’t mind…
Fortunately, there are ways to get the excitement back and make a
relationship interesting. To avoid yours from ever slipping into humdrum sterility, here are a few ways to avoid boredom in a relationship.
Define What Boredom Is
First of all,
You need to define what an
uninteresting relationship looks like to you. If you’ve been watching too many romantic comedies, you might have got the impression that a relationship isn’t
interesting unless an adventure is
happening every day. However, your partner might have a different definition. It’s all about perception. Is it really that boring and uninteresting when you return home from work each night, cook, clean a little, and watch TV together? Or is this what you’d call being comfortable with your partner and enjoying just being together?
Sometimes, it’s hard to go on an
adventure every day. For now, you might just have to tweak a few things, including your own perceptions. Let’ say you do return home from work each night, cook, clean a little, and watch TV together. According to a romantic
comedy, that would be lame and boring. But maybe it’s time to appreciate this fact some more. You’re living with your best friend, and you get to return home to him each night. Appreciate this and appreciate him some more. Make the most of this so-called routine. Put more
effort into cooking – cook together!
Choose new movies to watch, do
different activities at night. Be more intimate. Just enjoy the moments!
Do New Things Together
Remember when you guys first started dating? He was introducing you to new things, and you were introducing him to
new things. It’s great to be shown new things. It’s eye-opening. The first time you do anything is always the best. Just because you guys have tried lots of new things together already, it doesn’t mean
you need to stop there. And just because he’s introduced you to all that he knows and you’ve introduced him to all that you
know, it doesn’t mean there aren’t
things you can both learn together. Keep things fresh and interesting by finding new things to try. This could include new foods, or it could include new skills.
Have Date Night
A relationship can really lose its fizz when we start staying indoors all the time. Picture it: He really wants you both to go out to eat tonight, but you resist, saying you feel tired and don’t want to dress up. If the two of you stay cooped
up all the time, boredom will build and build. Moreover, you might even find that you start to get resentful. You want to be out there!
Make sure that you slot date night into your schedule each week. Plan something different each time. Pretend you’re both dating again! It’s fun and can prevent you crawling up the walls.
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